Going uphill

uphill - Going uphill


Life is hard, there is not doubt about it.  If someone does not have the right tools, it is next to impossible to get out of anxiety or depression. Many people out there live in constant psychological or physical pain.  Even being a LifeCoach, and counselor, my pessimism had a way of showing through.  It is a constant fight, to guard your body against negativity, and to instead fill your mind with goodness.  Rocky once said, “Ain’t nobody going to hit as hard as life. It will bring you down to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it.”

I am envious of those, who have adopted an optimistic mind set.  People who can joke around, and see the good in things, when life has gone rotten.  I tell myself, if I was going through what they were, I probably wouldn’t stick around to find out how things have ended.  It is though, of course, those thoughts right there, that destroy me before I even had a chance.  My negative thinking has become so powerful, it goes through my mind like a train, without any resistance or questioning.  It is not just the thoughts, the things I have said to myself that hurts, it is also the deep images that cut my soul like a knife.

I learned, through my hypnosis training, that the subconscious mind does not know the difference between reality and fantasy.  So if you imagine something, it takes it as truth.  If you tell it something, it takes it as truth.

We have got to be careful then, what we think.  Even though it takes a tremendous amount of energy. I have become much more cautious in what I think, and say to myself.  I have to.  The consequences are to large.  I do want to live, I don’t want to live a life in pain.  I do not want to invite disease into my body, because my negative thoughts brought down my system.  It is the reason I emerged myself into the study of “help.”  It was to help other people, but primarily it was to save myself.

I am here to say though, I understand the pain of trying.  I understand the hardships.  I know that trying to be happy, or changing a mindset can be like trudging through mud, uphill.  But we have to try, we have to succeed.  Even if you just replace one thought, just one with a happy thought during the day, you are on your way to change.  You are on your way to a brighter future.  But again, I understand.  I have thrown many self-help books across the room in frustration.  There were times I have given up all together.  But that piece in me, that piece who wants to live, won’t let me quit for good.  And it will grow, if you just give it a chance.  Those things in those books do work, but it takes time, and tremendous patience.

I hope you have a wonderful day

Everyone needs some extra help, someone to listen to them, to help them achieve their goals and feel better.  I have been a life coach, and personal trainer for years and  am currently getting my masters/PhD in counseling and therapy.  Please feel free to call me if you would like to talk about the possibility of having a life coach.  Just dial 517-898-7574



The power of lies


The Power of Lies

Written by guest writer

 “If you tell the truth, it becomes part of your past.  If you tell a lie, it becomes part of your future.”   ~John Spence
We all know what effects our lies can have on others, our loved ones, or whoever we lie to, or about.  But, have you ever really thought of the consequences of your lies on your own health?
When you lie, and are either consciously or subconsciously afraid of getting caught, there’s no way around it, your body becomes stressed about it, and it’s going to let you know!  Lies, no matter how big or little,(and yes, lies of omission are still lies), require effort to keep them hidden.
Many studies have been done, showing the serious effects that lying can have on your brain, body, and mental health.  Some of these include stress, anxiety, unhappiness, headaches, trouble sleeping, accelerated aging, and depressing your immune system, leading to more colds, sore throats, and decreased digestive health. Basically as you have to keep up with more lies, your health goes down.
In a nutshell, here’s what happens…
You tell a lie –> your body begins to feel stress –> your nervous system releases cortisol in response to the stress –> your brain is in overload and it’s ability to make smart decisions suffers –> over time you may become angry towards the person you lied to, which of course is not really anger towards them, but a manifestation of your own guilt –> you lash out to protect yourself and shift the focus to something other than your dishonesty –> the burden of your lies begins to take it’s toll on you.
On the other hand, it’s been shown that being honest has a number of positive psychological benefits.  In studies where people have purposely made an effort to remain truthful, they have reported better mental and physical health ,less physical symptoms, and improvements in their relationships.
So, here’s the moral of the story… telling the truth may may get you in trouble right now, but in the long run it’s much better to get things out in the open, and stay honest.  Not only will your loved ones and acquaintances thank you, but you will thank yourself later.
Life is just better when you’re honest because you feel better about yourself!
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