How to reprogram your mind

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The mind reminds me of an extremely powerful, complicated machine, without an instruction manual.  There are so many things I am learning about the brain, and I am just starting to understand how to control it.

 

For years, I had thoughts that would run through my mind, wild. Sometimes mundane thoughts, of what I need to buy at the grocery store, to terrible thoughts, about how my life “sucks.”  All in all, in the past, I did not enjoy the incredible instrument that was between my ears.  I would marvel at its capacity to do so many things, a modern phenomenon of evolution, and at the same time, tell myself, sometimes I wish I was just a squirrel, because then that way I wouldn’t know so much.  Higher intelligence can be a pain.  For example, I believe we are the only animal that knows one day we are going to get old, and die.  Our intelligence developed everything from nuclear weapons, to aerosol cans.  At the same time, we created music and a way of eating without having to hunt every time we got hungry.  We learned how to manipulate our own species through propaganda, and rhetoric.  I sometimes feel like people are all just trying to get one up over the other, like a bad game of chess.

 

Our mind is designed to be programmed.  It has to, for survival.  When we grow up, we observe those around us, and we take on their habits (program).  It is much like a duckling observing its mother, so it can learn how to be successful in the nature.  The problem is, if you do not consciously guard what goes into your mind, things will be encoded without your consent.

 

It is the reason why I let depression control the better part of my life.  Somewhere along the line, I let depression and anxiety become automatic.  It felt like a dark hypnotic spell.  I believed at the time, I did not have a choice in the matter.  How could I?  I fought so hard to get rid of the depression, and yet nothing seemed to change.

 

It was not until much later; did I learn how to properly change my mental software design.

 

I learned to guard things that entered my mind.  I stopped watching the news, because in our Country, the news advocates fear.  I stopped watching shows and movies that sponsored violence.  I stopped listening to radio shows that were heavily opinionated, and talked negatively about others.  I stopped gossiping and started avoiding adverse people.  I started listening to motivational speakers.  I decided to become my own best friend, and love myself.  I decided to hope that everyone have a happy life, and find satisfaction.

 

It takes time to change the programming of your mind.  But you can do it.  We are what we consume, it really is that simple.  Just flick the switch, start seeing the good in life, in yourself, in others, instead of the bad.  You begin doing that, you open up the spiritual channels within you, you open the roads of possibilities and miracles.

 

You become the vision that you always needed.

 

I hope you have a wonderful day, write back and tell me your thoughts!

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The choice of happiness

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There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.

Buddha quote

 

It is hard to be happy. Sometimes I wonder if it is even a choice for some people. For some people, happiness is probably something that comes every once in a long while, like a harvest moon or a four leafed clover. I have talked to people who cannot even remember the last time they felt good, safe or felt things were going to be okay. Some people live out this life like it is a prison sentence, a lot of people are suffering alone, keeping their demons to themselves.   Some people are conditioned to keep their pain quiet, and their reasons are many.

I have a friend named Jake (not his real name), and he is probably one of the loneliest souls I ever met. He goes to work, and then comes home to watch television alone. He is going on 40 and has never had a real relationship, he will occasionally have a small fling, but rarely anything that lasts longer than a couple weeks. When he does muster the energy, he would go out to the bars and look for people to talk too, but then he would quickly run out of energy, and retreat home. When I asked him why he does not go out more, he tells me he is tired of being rejected.

So I am sure what ails him is more than just a negative attitude, but a complex web of genetics, chemical imbalances, socioeconomic factors and other things. He has the same attitude when it comes to getting help, he will begin the process, but then quickly run out of energy and optimism.   Or he will get help from the wrong people, making the situation even worse, causing him more anger and sadness, pushing him down further then he was before. So he then retreats into the dark recesses of his mind, going deeper into the void of his life, losing whatever inertia he had.

So I asked him what would make him happy, he shrugged his shoulders and then told me that if he had a girlfriend who loved him, and that he loved back. I then asked him, even if he was able to achieve that, would that truly bring him happiness? He gloomily looked at me and said, “dude, I really don’t know.”   So I then asked him, what if you just chose to be happy? He looked at me like I was crazy, and I guess I don’t blame him, because it seems we are always looking for outside circumstances or things to make us happy. But what if we just chose to be happy in the moment, no matter what the moment was?

My friend of course needed help to see that it was a choice. That is what my main goal is to do with this website. To have people receive help right on the spot, through certified counselors either it be one on one, or through a group chat. It is through support we get through pain. It is knowing that we are not alone, that gets us over the hump.   This though, is a blog for another day, I will be writing about it soon.

I am guilty of course of not choosing to be happy in the moment. I think that once I get that car, or that job, or have the respect I always wanted from the community, then happiness and satisfaction will inevitably be mine. I then realized though, this was a fallacy in my thinking, because once I achieved one thing, something else would pop up, something that I felt I needed, and I soon understood that the process would never end. I would always be looking to the future for my happiness, but the problem with the future is that it is always in the future, and I would forever only be in the present. So, why not just choose to be happy now? To not let the outside world influence my decision, just to say, hey, I choose to be happy, and then let myself be happy.   It really is a choice, we have just been conditioned not to think that way. If we were satisfied with just happiness, the capitalistic society would crash, because we would stop buying things we didn’t need.

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Change

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“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
Mahatma GandhiIt

is amazing to me how fast life can change. I think of life like looking at a clock, you don’t see the hour hand move, if you just stare at it, but go away for a little bit and come back, and you notice the change. When I live my life day to day, it does’t seem like there is a lot of change, but when I step back and look, just looking back a year, I can see a tremendous difference. I have had friends who were alive a year ago, and now are dead, I live in a new place in a new town. I have started a masters program, I am working on a website, and a new job. Everything in my life is different.

I sometimes wished things would slow down a bit, just so I could process everything that has happened. Unfortunately, that is impossible. It frustrates me that change is going to happen, no matter what, sometimes good, sometimes bad, sometimes devastating. And when I think about it, it is the process of the evolving universe.

Our planet at one time was a giant ball of fire, and at another a giant ball of ice. It has gone through four mass extinctions, and it will again. Even our sun, has gone through massive changes, in fact it is on the last part of it’s cycle, before it explodes then implodes, it may even turn into a black hole. Even our own bodies go through massive changes, in fact every four years we are a completely new person, with all different cells. So, in retrospect, we are constantly always dying, and always being reborn.

But change has to happen. It has to, there is no choice. Things have got to move. What would happen if the earth stopped rotating? What would happen if our cells stopped dying and reproducing?

So, I can look at all this change as either good news or bad news. It is all perspective. If we cannot stop change, then why fight it? I choose to go with it, and accept it, and change the things I can and the rest just let go. For example, I cannot change the way people think, but I can decide to change the way I do. I cannot change the body I am in, but I can decide to change what I eat to feel healthy. Trying to change other people, it is futile, they have got to want to change. It is amazing to me how often I see people trying to change others, and the anger they have when it does not happen. I am guilty of that as well.

 

The really good news is, is that if things change so rapidly, and your life is unsatisfactory, just wait, things will get better again.  They have too, nothing ever stays the same.  And it really is amazing what can happen if you decide to try to make the inevitable change for the better.

So, if we are going to be changing, let us change together. I want to hear your opinions on this subject so I can learn from you.

Have a wonderful day

 

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