Do what you love

menards - Do what you love


85 percent of American’s do not like the job they are doing.  Most people have a healthy mind and body, strong enough to work a job that they would love, if they just had the inclination to do so.


So, the magical question is, why do so many Americans work a job they hate? Day after day?  Selling their life for a paycheck?  The sad thing is, I know exactly why, because that guy was me.


I remember putting away stock at Menards, I was going through their management training program.  The program was fast paced, and I felt I was not learning anything.  Menards wanted me to finish the agenda quickly, because they wanted me to be the assistant manager in the hardware department of a new store opening in Chicago.  What I did not understand about the company, was that people who knew the hardware department inside and out, people who have been working the position for years, were going to be overlooked so I could have it.  I only graced the hardware department, only spent two weeks in it while going through the management program.  The funny thing was, I never even spent time as a builder, I barely knew how to use a hammer, let alone give someone advice on how to build a home.  I was out of my element.  The only reason they wanted me to have the job, was because I had a bachelors, and what was even more crazy, the bachelors was in science, not business.  I was turtle slow when It came to putting out stock, setting sales, and creating planograms.  I knew that when I went to Chicago, I was going to be buried, and probably fired quickly, due to my lack skill.  I felt complimented in the fact that people had faith in me, but I knew, being a manager, was not what I wanted.


It wasn’t that I lacked faith in myself, I feel, given enough time and training, I could become a very competent manager.  I even tried talking myself into keeping the job.  The number one reason was of course money, I could be making up to sixty thousand a year, with benefits.  It was based on salary.  I knew though, the time I would have to trade, the hours a week I would have to work.  When you are a manager at Menards, you cannot leave until the job is done.  And trust me, there are a lot of things that need to be done.  A forty-hour week is considered part-time when you are a manager.  I used to laugh when people said that they would work over 70 hours a week there, until I witnessed it myself.  It was not unusual for a manager to work late, sometimes past midnight, and have to open the next morning, that is, be there at 5:50 a.m.  After you factor in driving and getting ready for bed, maybe you got four hours of sleep, just to work another horrendous day.  Not every day was like that of course, but there were enough of them to make me anxious.  Especially around Christmas time, and whenever they had big sales.   Some managers even slept in the parking lot to save time, but Menards decided that was a no-no.  Even with the atrocious hours, I still tried to talk myself into taking the job.  I was an avid studier of human communication, had a certification in personal training, and loved doing hypnosis.  My passion was to help people through communication, I wanted to be a life coach, and therapist deep down.  I told myself that being a manager would in many ways would be a lot like being a therapist, but, the element of truth to that was small, so I decided to stop lying to myself.


Of course, I had to ask myself, what was stopping me from fulling my dream?  It was a complicated question.  I think deep down I was scared of failure, more scared of success, and probably believed it would never really happen.  I did not want to feel like a chump.  But then I realized, the pain of not trying, was going to override the pain of trying with failing.


So I said no to the management job in Chicago, and went down to part-time at the hardware department.  I took a pay-cut, and started using the extra hours to work on getting into school.  I started my own blog, my own website, and things are building.  I am now certified in life-coaching and am getting a Master’s in counseling.  The up-side is that I am doing what I love, the downside is that I am as poorer then a church mouse.  But that is OK.  I’d rather be poor working towards my dream, then making money, and trading my life away.  In the end, I will not be poor.  If you are working towards something you are passionate in, it is no longer work.


Of course, my mission is not near over, still many things to do.  I have to push myself to get clients, I have to get out of my comfort zone.  I will have to change things within me, that I am scared to do.  But that is the consequence of taking such risk.  At the end of the day though, when I look in the mirror, I smile, and that is something that in the past I have not done very often.

Everyone needs some extra help, someone to listen to them, to help them achieve their goals and feel better.  I have been a life coach, and personal trainer for years and  am currently getting my masters/PhD in counseling and therapy.  Please feel free to call me if you would like to talk about the possibility of having a life coach.  Just dial 517-898-7574






Why Confidence is more powerful than degrees

degree - Why Confidence is more powerful than degrees

The beautiful energy when everything comes together I can only now imagine that energy.  When all the cogs of life, turn in complete unison, giving you that inevitable success, that power.  When your mind, body and soul are united in one front, you feel invincible.  People, who have achieved such amazing success, talk about the thousands of hours that are put into their craft, before the magic happens.  And it is magic.

I had a powerful drive, a strong motivation to get things done.  I realized though, that sometimes my motivation got me into more trouble, then helped me out.  Many things I did in life did not pan out, and it has caused me immense frustration.  I remember when I received my personal training certificate through the NSCA-CPT.  I studied day and night to obtain that accreditation, and I was immensely proud of myself when I got it.  I was working at the YMCA at the time, worked as a personal trainer, that is the reason I got certified.  I thought for sure clients would be coming through the door, and not only would I be training people, but I would be making a decent living as well.

Nothing happened.  I started with zero clients, and ended up with zero clients.  What happened?  I talked to people in the gym, I had an incredible amount of knowledge about working out, I could genuinely help people.  I have to admit, that was not the most frustrating aspect of the adventure though, the more frustrating thing was seeing one personal trainer, who was not even certified at the time, who had tons of clients.  People were lining up to see him.  I just could not understand it.   My frustration, as strong as it was, was not as powerful as my curiosity.  There were a couple of things I noticed about my colleague, that opened my eyes on to why he was so successful.


  1. Confidence speaks louder then degrees. I noticed when I talked to people, I did not talk with confidence, I always second guessed my procedures.  I told people I was newly certified, yet I was excited to work with them.    My colleague, he loved working out, and he was CONFIDENT on what he was doing, and it showed.  He never second guessed himself, and people could read that from him.  From watching him, I realized that confidence is the name of the game.  If you BELIEVE in yourself, you will be successful.  You can have as many degrees as you want, but without confidence, they are just 20,000 dollar pieces of framed paper on your wall.
  2. Being social. He was a friendly guy, much friendlier then me.  When I went out to talk to people on the gym floor, or in public, I felt like it was job.  I dreaded it, I felt uncomfortable talking to people about their workouts.  My colleague on the other hand, he loved it!  It was not just talking to people about working out,  he genuinely had fun conversing.  He would talk about their lives and all kinds of things.  He was engaged with them.  Sometimes working out did not even come up in the conversation, but I would realize later, a lot of these people would become clients.  HE MADE PEOPLE FEEL IMPORTANT.  Not only that, he was best friends with our boss, which I am sure helped out a lot.  I used to get upset with that, thought he was being a “suck up”, but that mind frame, was terrible.  He was friends with the boss because he was friendly with everyone, even me! He sincerely liked people.


So, the moral of the story, and what I painfully learned, is that CONFIDENCE is more important than DEGREES.  My colleague new his stuff, and he knows he knew his stuff.

I have seen time after time, people, without degrees, who were wildly successful.  They had those two magical ingredients, confidence and friendliness.

If you want something, go out there and get it.  If you do not have the confidence, FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT.  It is possible.

Please write back, let me hear your thoughts!  Have a wonderful day

Everyone needs some extra help, someone to listen to them, to help them achieve their goals and feel better.  I have been a life coach, and personal trainer for years and  am currently getting my masters/PhD in counseling and therapy.  Please feel free to call me if you would like to talk about the possibility of having a life coach.  Just dial 517-898-7574